Saturday, February 02, 2013

My "Fearful" Confession

*you might need a cup of coffee for this one, because it's more intense than my normal blog posts*


Dear Blogging World, 

I have a confession to make. 

This is something that has been on my mind for awhile. 

I had originally scheduled another edition of moments & details for today's post, but this is something I needed to get out.

Okay, here it is.

I am afraid.

A Young Woman


Let me explain. Lately in my city, there has been a bit too much criminal activity going on for my comfort. There have been abductions {knife-point}, robberies, assaults, and break-ins. I think the scary part was the fact that some of these incidents happened to young women who just happened to be alone out in public. This results in the "I am afraid" mindset.

Now, I have lived in this city for almost three years {February 15th}. I have walked home at night in the past. I have been alone at certain times of the day in public. I have done things that some would label "unsafe". However, IT NEVER HAS BEEN! I have never felt unsafe or been anywhere near somewhere that has made me feel so. So why this all of sudden urge to hire bodyguards?

I don't know. But it bothers me because it is extending into my social media side of life. I have already deleted the majority of pictures on my personal Facebook page. I have set my account to the highest possible privacy settings. I have even debating changing my name {let's be honest, Silver is quite easier to search and find}. Then I think about my blog. About all the pictures. All the details. All the information. Blogging is a very important part of my life. So where do I go with this fear?

I do bring it to the Lord. I do. But I also know I have a brain and insight. Am I not being smart with my use of social media? Am I too public with my personal life? How can I answer this? I see blogs with thousands of followers and these wonderful and inspiring women post pictures of themselves, their neighbourhoods, their children, their life events. Do they ever feel afraid? I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic.

I don't have the answer. I just have the mindset. I don't have the steps I'm going to take. All I know there is a fear there that has never been there before . . .


Suzanne Carillo Style Files said... [Reply to comment]

That is really too bad. It is not a good sign when you don't feel safe in your own home. Fear paralyzes people from their lives. I hope that they catch some of the people that are terrorizing your neighbourhood so you can start to feel like your "old" self again.


Agnieszka (Aga) Guerrero Olesinska said... [Reply to comment]

It will be better

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KatySue Pillsbury said... [Reply to comment]

Poor girl, I'm so sorry you feel this way!
God has a plan for your life and all you can do is go to Him for guidance and peace, though I know how terribly hard that can be to do!
As far as the safety of having a blog, and posting about your locations and details, only mention trips and events after you get back so if anyone (God forbid) does seek to harm you, they won't know where your going to be before you get there!

Louise Jones said... [Reply to comment]

I was once on a public forum where a group of ladies were arranging a meeting and they were talking about a certain day and pub and which train they were catching so they could share a taxi
Not a wise thing to do in public. I think your right to be careful what said in blog's or online.

Theresa said... [Reply to comment]

As you know we reside in the same community and I feel the same fears you do. I suppose my motto has always been that I refuse to be ruled by fear. I will be cautious, but refuse to be paranoid because paranoia quickly becomes very limiting. I have a fairly public profile and presence and I suppose this can make me a greater target in some sense but for me the rewards always outweigh the risks, and so I act accordingly. I wish I hadn't experienced all this before but sadly I have when I lived in Toronto in the late 1980's and early 1990's.
Best wishes,
McMurray Musings

Onto my Wardrobe said... [Reply to comment]

Hey dear I really like your blog! What about following each other? Also on bloglovin, facebook and even lookbook if you want...just let me know :3 <3



terr davidson said... [Reply to comment]

It sits scary when you have to think like that now a days hope u get some peace of mind xx

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Onto my Wardrobe said... [Reply to comment]

Hey dear I really like your blog! What about following each other? Also on bloglovin, facebook and even lookbook if you want...just let me know :3 <3



Onto my Wardrobe said... [Reply to comment]

Hey dear I really like your blog! What about following each other? Also on bloglovin, facebook and even lookbook if you want...just let me know :3 <3



Rachel said... [Reply to comment]

It really is an interesting dilemma--blogging and safety. I choose the route of never blogging about my plans--only after, and usually much after they occur. I'm very aware of giving out too much specific information...I don't blog about my birthday on my actual birthday, I don't actually write the names or restaurants or the cities we visit... stuff like that. I occasionally think about some things I've done in the past--and think "What was I thinking?" because I was probably a little braver or more naive than I should have been..but I'm so grateful that God has always protected me!

My wooden shoes said... [Reply to comment]

I understand what you mean. But I try not to think about it to much, cause it will frighten me..
Good luck and take care!!


Erin said... [Reply to comment]

Proud of you for being so honest about your fears, I think so many of us women feel the same. Love how you are bringing it to the Lord. A true example!! love you!

Donna Iveh said... [Reply to comment]

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Janine said... [Reply to comment]

I understand your worry and concern which is natural when crime is on the increase (and also wise to be cautious)However I think with a degree of sensibility and awareness of keeping as much private as you can (like you are doing) you will be as safe as the next person (sadly, nobody can be promised they will be 100% safe these days) But also these crimes tend to be opportunistic, wrong person wrong place wrong time. They are rare events (still scary) but try not to worry so much about it. Don't let the fear win.

Janine xx
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